Friday, December 27 2019
The New Year is a time that we seek change, personal growth, and expansion in areas of our lives. As we let go of the old year, we look ahead to something new, better, and hopeful and many people make New Year’s resolutions to create this brighter future. Maybe your resolution is to lose weight, learn something new, or stop a bad habit. Maybe your resolution is to work on healing an aspect of your life. Specifically, you might have an experience of sexual violence.
Any unwanted sexual experience is sexual violence. We hold these experiences of violence in many ways in our lives, and they create trauma for us. No matter what this experience was for us, we may feel angry, anxious, out of control, depressed, tired, irritable, triggered, or like we are going crazy. We might have changes in every aspect of our lives—how we take care of ourselves, our eating and exercising, our relationships, and our feelings.
The New Year feels like the perfect time for a lot of survivors to heal and process these experiences. Even if you don’t participate in New Year’s resolutions, now is always a good time to start. If you’re wanting to heal and find expansion and newness after your trauma, we are here to help in whatever way you need.
Maybe you just want a listening ear and some support, such as from a support group, Bible study, or book club, places where you can also build supportive relationships. Perhaps you want to get connected with a therapist and learn how to cope with your triggers. Maybe you want to learn some exercises to help you feel safer or some yoga to help you feel less anxious. Or perhaps you just want to know about a book you can read or a website you can use to learn more about what you’re going through. We are here for you and would be happy to get you connected with anything you need to find help, healing, and hope.
I promise you that healing is possible. Every day we see people who benefit with increased feelings of safety and calmness, increased coping skills, connection with others, validation and understanding, and decreased feelings of trauma, stress, and anxiety. Whatever your resolutions might be, we know that you can do it and we've got your back.
We believe in you and wish you the very best in the New Year.