It can be very difficult to hear that a friend or loved one has been a victim of sexual violence. It is important to provide support for them. It is also very important to take care of yourself.

If you know someone who has been assaulted, you are what we call a “secondary survivor.” (The person who was assaulted is a “primary survivor.”) Secondary survivors can be anyone – the victim’s partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, parents, sister, brother, friend, or more. As a secondary survivor, it is normal to have reactions like anger, fear, or sadness.

Safe Place provides free and confidential services to primary and secondary survivors. We offer sexual violence education to learn more about what primary survivors are going through and how to support them. We can provide emotional support, information, support groups, and therapy referrals for you or your loved one. It is hard to help your loved one if you are struggling. Please call us at 1-877-733-1990 for information about how we can help you or your loved one. You can also find out more about our services here.

How to Help a Friend (RAINN.org)

Self-Care for Friends & Family (RAINN.org)

A guide for Family and Friends from the Pennsylvania Coalition against Rape contains a general overview of sexual violence. It includes some tips on communication, the common questions and concerns, the long-term effects, and how significant others can be affected.